For most of us, the holidays are the best time of the year. We connect with family, friends, and fellow believers to remember what life is truly about.
However, for those of us who have lost our closest loved ones, the holiday season can be one of the loneliest times of the year. Seeing everyone else enjoy their loved ones and holiday traditions can make the season very challenging.
Research reveals that love is the #1 key to happiness. When we lose love, happiness is much more difficult to come by. Fortunately, it’s not impossible.
If you find yourself alone this holiday season, consider taking the following steps to enjoy this time of year:
Find peace in God
“For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah 29:11.
The pain of loss can very easily become anger towards God. If you find yourself upset because of what has happened, take some time this year to dive into God’s Word.
Remember that we live in a sinful world – death and loss are something we will have to endure until Christ returns. We don’t have to enjoy it, but we can remember that God “will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).” He has experienced more loss than we could ever imagine – and He knows how to comfort. (Hebrews 4:16)
Before the holidays begin, make sure that you are at peace with God – confident in His love for you and your love for Him. This is the first step to a truly joyful season.
Connect with others – including the lonely
The holidays are only lonely when you have no one to spend them with – so make connections!
If you have extended family or good friends, try to connect with them as much as possible during this time of year. Participate in church and community events. Find ways to make new friends.
When it seems too difficult to get into a clique, reach out to others who are lonely and invite them to celebrate the season with you.
People are very responsive to the way we behave. When we try to help, others feel included, and it doesn’t take long before we feel accepted and loved ourselves.
Look forward to the future
Finally, remember that death is temporary and loneliness won’t last forever. Whether you’re separated from those you love or feel as if you’ve never truly been loved, remember that God has a plan for a perfect future.
One day we will all enjoy the true meaning of Christmas – in Heaven with Christ Himself. When that day comes, there will be no more tears, no more death, and no more loneliness. It will be the most amazing experience that any of us could ever imagine.
Yes, today may be lonely, but the future is bright.
If you have a desire to enjoy this holiday season, find a community to be a part of. Join a local church, get involved, and treat others with the same love and enthusiasm that you hope to receive from them.
Who knows? By focusing on others you may be able to make this the best Christmas season ever. We’ll be praying for you.