I love Thanksgiving. I love the noisy chatter of family all throughout the house. I love how we talk about old times and recall special memories of Thanksgivings past, and yes, I even love turkey (I’m an expert carver!) and that Jello® salad with marshmallows and nuts that my mother-in-law makes. But most of all I love the fact that while we gather as a family to focus our thoughts on all we have to be thankful for, every day is Thanksgiving when you have Jesus Christ as your Savior.
It could be that the greatest challenge of leadership is corralling that most unruly and unpredictable of spirits—our own. Leading with integrity begins here, and the greatest challenges that threaten to trip us up and imperil our influence are likewise internal—issues of the heart.
You have heard it said that there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance, but the truth is, they are miles apart. A cocky leader is not a leader with simply too much confidence; confidence and cockiness are very different traits altogether.
Here are 10 differences between cockiness and arrogance.
The most read New York Times article from 2016 had nothing to do with politics, culture wars, or comic book movies. Instead, the most-read article of 2016 was all about commitment.
The piece, titled “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person,” was written by Alain de Botton. In it, de Botton takes shots at our culture’s idea that the ultimate foundation for commitment in marriage is romantic affection, that feeling of compatibility that means the other person will finally fulfill my needs and make me truly happy.
We all know this is misguided, so much so that de Botton predicts every married person will eventually find inadequacies so severe in their spouse that it will prompt them to ask, “Did I marry the wrong person?” He humorously notes, the relational arc of a marriage leans away from idealistic romantic sizzle as “maddening children . . . kill the passion from which they emerged.”
CHURCH AND OUR CULTURE
As I read de Botton’s article, I couldn’t help but see how much of our culture’s view of love and commitment mirrors how many Christians view church membership. Many Christians’ broken relationships with their churches resemble patterns of the divorce culture and its attendant assumptions about authority, love, and compatibility.
Hypocrisy. Even the thought of it makes most of us cringe.
And boy, was it on display earlier this month on the right and on the left.
For example, Harvey Weinstein was outed as a sexual harasser and an abuser of power. Yes, Weinstein created a foundation to support “women’s rights, more women directors, the National Endowment of the Arts. I’m going to finance a lot of it privately.”
It appears that was not all what he was doing privately.